We as a society keep facing conflicts in our daily life - be it in family, at work or other places. How we handle those conflicts defines who we are and how successful we will be in our career, family and helps our overall well-being.
So, what is a conflict? - Conflict is defined as an unavoidable aspect of everyday life. First thing to note here is that you were or will always find yourself in a situation of "Conflict". It is unavoidable.
The first step to solving a problem is to acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. How many of us do this - most of us don't, including me :)
The second step to solve a problem is to do a root-cause analysis: what, why and how these conflicts arise and see ourselves as the core of the situation or as a supplant or a catalyst to a chemical reaction.
Talking of chemical reactions, conflicts are like an excited state where electrons jump from their normal orbital state to a higher state.
We also taken over by emotions succumb to the pressures and to our scheming mind to cause a chemical reaction in our mind and body to have rush of blood - called high blood pressure.
We need to calm down and come back to our normal self - so, how to achieve this? We need to calm ourselves down by repeatedly telling that "All Is Well" or some such oft quoted quotations which come in handy for situations like these.
Become the Zen master keeping the Yin and Yang in balance and keep our cool and not react immediately.
Then, how to keep our cool? How not to react immediately?
Keep reading your thoughts and dwell on why things are happening the way they are - see the things not from your side but from an outsider's perspective, meaning, understanding what the other person thinks of you will help you understand yourself better.
At first, the above statement doesn't make any sense - not to me or any of my "common" friends, who, are just common, not Zen-like.
How to get to a state of understanding? I guess one way to do it is to practice - by making mistakes? Yes, may be!!!
One will learn only by practice - a wise man once said, the only way to start defending yourself is to take the first hit on the jawbone, then, anticipate. Meditate, keep a journal - like a blog or diary!!
Once you master the moves of your opponent - in any game, life, career, you will be better able to avoid them.
Is avoiding the only solution? No, there are several ways of resolving a conflict - some of them are best defined in this article link - http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_81.htm
The article talks about conflicts in the workplace, which is a good start. But the basic principles of Science can be applied to any area of life.
When the Physics, Chemistry and the Biology are all in co-ordination, you will reach a calm state of being - Happy "Con"-"flicting", Cheers!!!
So, what is a conflict? - Conflict is defined as an unavoidable aspect of everyday life. First thing to note here is that you were or will always find yourself in a situation of "Conflict". It is unavoidable.
The first step to solving a problem is to acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. How many of us do this - most of us don't, including me :)
The second step to solve a problem is to do a root-cause analysis: what, why and how these conflicts arise and see ourselves as the core of the situation or as a supplant or a catalyst to a chemical reaction.
Talking of chemical reactions, conflicts are like an excited state where electrons jump from their normal orbital state to a higher state.
We also taken over by emotions succumb to the pressures and to our scheming mind to cause a chemical reaction in our mind and body to have rush of blood - called high blood pressure.
We need to calm down and come back to our normal self - so, how to achieve this? We need to calm ourselves down by repeatedly telling that "All Is Well" or some such oft quoted quotations which come in handy for situations like these.
Become the Zen master keeping the Yin and Yang in balance and keep our cool and not react immediately.
Then, how to keep our cool? How not to react immediately?
Keep reading your thoughts and dwell on why things are happening the way they are - see the things not from your side but from an outsider's perspective, meaning, understanding what the other person thinks of you will help you understand yourself better.
At first, the above statement doesn't make any sense - not to me or any of my "common" friends, who, are just common, not Zen-like.
How to get to a state of understanding? I guess one way to do it is to practice - by making mistakes? Yes, may be!!!
Once you master the moves of your opponent - in any game, life, career, you will be better able to avoid them.
Is avoiding the only solution? No, there are several ways of resolving a conflict - some of them are best defined in this article link - http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_81.htm
The article talks about conflicts in the workplace, which is a good start. But the basic principles of Science can be applied to any area of life.
When the Physics, Chemistry and the Biology are all in co-ordination, you will reach a calm state of being - Happy "Con"-"flicting", Cheers!!!
